GRIEVING LASTS AS LONG AS LOVE

FOREVER

As far as I know, grief will never truly end.

You may find that over time your grief becomes softer, maybe even more gentle—but some days it might also feel sharp. These feelings, I have learned, are normal to feel and completely valid. It is the absence of your loved one that manifests in your heart.

You feel a deep longing for that person; a longing that is accompanied by deep, immense love. Some days you may notice that the heavy dense fog is beginning to roll in, and the next day the sunshine forces the fog out of your way. It is an endless cycle, and one you should welcome.

It is like you are in a constant dance with sorrow and joy, pain and love. The most important thing to remember is that grief is not just a series of events; there is no timeline for it. Others may heal quicker than you do in terms of grieving, but whether you are ahead or behind is completely up to you. Deal with grief in a way that benefits you, your mind, body and soul.

You may have a broken heart, but believe that your loved one(s) will help mend your heart and piece you back together. I know this from personal experience having loss both of my grandmas when I was little, and my grandpa just two years ago. Though I dealt with my own grieving very differently in each case, I know that they were with me; helping me heal and reminding me that life goes on and that they are still with me.

Below is a poem I wrote a year after my grandpa passed away:

This morning I thought of you; what’s it like in heaven, how’s the view? He’s fine and happy I thought, but once again it brought my stomach to a knot. I will love you every day of my life and at some point I think I will be alright. But for now, though I have fresh scars, I know someday I will see you on the other side of the stars.”
— Andrea Garcia

To the loved ones in my family I have lost—I promise to live my life for you, striving to make you proud with everything that I do. (I encourage you all to do the same.)